When I first explored alternative healing methods I did it for two reasons: One reason was that about 30 years ago after reading a book about REIKI from my monthly ONE SPIRIT book club offering, it struck a harmonic chord in me—spurred an intuitive interest to learn how to do it for myself.
The second reason was that I wanted to help my friend who was going through a difficult health challenge, and I hoped learning how to do REIKI on her would improve her condition.
These are our basic motivations for much of what we do in life—either for self-interest and/or to help those we care about beyond ourselves. Some would say that in a sense both examples are self-interest because it’s someone you love, but my desire to help others extended beyond those I personally knew.
Besides working full time in my regular job, after a few years of training and acquiring another higher-frequency, three-level version of the practice called KARUNA REIKI, I then partnered with a cancer nurse supervisor in a medical clinic and we began offering REIKI classes to patients and staff of the hospital where she worked. A small group of us also offered FREE sessions a few times a month to those who wanted to try it. That was beneficial to all who experienced it, both clients and practitioners. I learned a lot about what REIKI could actually do to improve other lives through freely helping others.
After that I formed my own alternative healing business for pay. By then I had learned more treatment techniques, had more diverse training added to my resume, and I became “Have Table Will Travel” to many who requested that I bring the treatment to them at their homes.
I was dedicated and gutsy back then. Today I wouldn’t be so naïve or so trusting about blindly walking up to a stranger’s home who had called me for help, then hauling my table into whatever situation I was presented. Some folks were just simple, normal folks who were sick or in need of my help, but a few situations were a bit more sketchy because different people have different standards of normalcy in life. That’s just how it is. When you willingly walk into the unknown you have to trust you can handle whatever you find there.
Once I was established enough to have an actual full-time office where clients could visit me, I was fairly knowledgeable about how best to work with whatever illness or injury a client presented. By then I’d had shamanic training, de-possession training, and was a certified hypnotist besides being a REIKI Master. All of those disciplines gave me a broader perspective on what might actually be happening with the client on my table beyond what you might assume to be the problem, or what the client had been told was her problem.
I know it’s a long way to make a point here, but since this post is called “Self-Healing” how does that apply to this lengthy tale?
By the ‘opening an office’ time I had been doing my REIKI-thing for around twenty-plus years—had worked on nearly a hundred clients—and had built up my own experiential database of treating various ailments and handling different client personalities. I had also begun to note some common themes in people who were requesting my help.
Common Client Themes:
- There were those who were desperate for help and healing because they feared dying.
- There were those who were looking for hope to continue fighting whatever was destroying their health and their relationships.
- There were those who thought it was my job to make them better because they were paying me to FIX them.
- There were those who were open to changing their standard modes of behavior, and learning how to take better care of themselves in all ways.
- And there were those who weren’t willing to change their behavior that had attributed to their current problem (like quit smoking to a lung cancer diagnosis).
- There were those who were seeing me because a loved one pushed them into the experience to try to help them even if they hadn’t wanted to come.
- And there were even those who were basically lonely and just wanted someone to care about them if only for an hour.
I soon realized that what I could do for ALL of them had its limits because so much depended on what was happening in that client’s head when they walked through my door. Being ill is a physical/mental/emotional ailment, but it can also be a mind-state.
By thinking of myself as a ‘healer’ to these people I was inadvertently encouraging their dependence on me rather than allowing them to believe more in themselves to help solve their own problems. That almost ‘savior’ mentality I had maintained back then wasn’t advantageous to either the client or myself because it presumed too much responsibility on me alone to FIX them of their maladies or health crisis, which was inaccurate to what I actually offered them. I slowly began to see my revised role in the client interaction as more of a facilitator for the most desirable healing environment, and as a coach to their focusing on taking a more active role in healing themselves because the most critical component to our session together was that the client had to WANT to heal the issue presenting in them in some way and believing that it was possible to do so.
I changed tactics in my treatment methods and began pushing more for a client’s self-empowerment—encouraging more self-healing efforts besides what we were doing in my office. I wanted them to start taking more responsibility in how the client mentally and emotionally reacted to their overall health crisis—especially in how they thought about the situation by pointedly asking them this question: “In this health challenge situation do you feel powerless or powerful?” Then asked them to tell me WHY they felt that way.
Then I explained to them that I could only provide the space and energy-frequency for them to ‘self-actualize’ the life that they truly wanted to live because I could not really FIX them of their problem. That was not in my ability to do so. In truth they had to FIX themselves because this life—this experience on Earth—is all about self-healing. You must determine what you want from your life and how badly that you want it? How deeply are you willing to dig into your own self to heal those ancient soul wounds from many lifetimes?
I told them there were things that I could do to help them in this healing endeavor, which I would do to the best of my ability like providing the most conducive healing environment around them as we worked together through the process of clearing out the old debilitating energies from their field: While lying under the high-frequency energy flowing from my hands, they relaxed on my table and went deep into a healing state of mind; and from there they learned to feel at peace with themselves and feel deeply loved beyond this level of living. I asked them what outcome they wanted from our session together and told them to picture it—to hold it lovingly, not desperately, within themselves. I relayed to them whatever images or visions I saw and felt while working on them; and asked if they wanted to release those old energies that they had previously refused to let go of before now, to start fresh—start new—to BE new from this moment onward. I could guide them through a soul-healing process, but the client had to be focused on taking a more active participation in the outcome.
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For my own learning journey here in this plane of existence, it was never about me HEALING anyone. It was always about THEM HEALING THEMSELVES while I provided the proper atmosphere and energies for it to happen. Sure there were things I did that helped clear them or cleanse their energy field or relaxed them so deeply that healing came more naturally, but it was never about me being a HEALER at all. It was always their self-healing that mattered most. It took me a long time to finally realize that simple fact, but I believe it totally and completely now.