Been thinking a lot about many things lately—some I have control over and some I don’t. What I do know is that ‘change’ is a game shifter for everyone because change makes you recalibrate all aspects of your life—it makes you step back and reassess your previous life direction and your current game plan for achieving future happiness.
And likewise challenges in life are the catalysts to our behavior changes. We have all known life’s challenges—those ‘driving forces’ in our lives from childhood onward that often affected our overall LIFE perspectives, including how we learned to adapt to or even to survive our family environments if they were less than nurturing and ideal.
These driving forces of life often involved having our most basic needs met: like food, shelter, protection from harm, and feeling love and a sense of belonging somewhere to someone or something. Our deeper needs drove us forward day by day toward some distant unknown we naively thought of as our future life; and as children we looked to adults around us as the examples of what we had to do and how to we had act to receive our most basic necessities.
The problem with those adult behavior examples was that they only showed us two things: 1) how to act to get what you wanted in life and 2) how NOT to act if we as children were the ones being adversely acted upon. Harm-causing examples showed us HOW NOT TO BE by how much pain they personally cost us. But both the GOOD and the BAD adult behavior examples taught us deeper personal lessons than most of us are even aware.
Those joyful or painful childhood memories taught us that we had to be adept at reading ‘people situations’ before we had to react to them. Self-confident individuals often handled people-challenges better than those who were continually belittled or psychologically abused as children because personally challenged, battered kids quickly learned to find some place to hide until the nearest threat lessened. Understandably they also learned how to avoid conflict and human contact in general because they had become masters in furniture-camouflage and wall-blending. It was just safer that way—to remain unseen in the house.
The strange thing is that even those BAD examples of what it means to be a human being were not only teaching us harsh lessons about the world around us; but more importantly, they were also teaching us important lessons about ourselves as loving, caring individuals who needed more mutual support and community involvement just to survive childhood.
But then again, we are not kids any longer. We don’t need to hide in closets or under the bed now. We know bad behavior examples when we see and hear them because they are all around us now everywhere. And the only thing they are really showing us is how important it is to NOT be like those bad examples.
So look for more positive inspiration in your life to help you be better than the bad examples you are seeing everywhere in the world now. Be better than them. Be better than those caustic human behaviors creating chaos and heartache wherever they roam. Elevate your life out of this continual, political muck and mire and find ways to be a strong, good example of a loving person for the younger ones in your life. Be someone they can model as the ideal person who cares about others and tries to make this a better world for everyone—not just for themselves. You can do this. No more wall-blending or closet sitting. Be bold and bright and impossible to miss as you make this a better world for everyone that you encounter from this day forward. *** BE YOU. *** BE AWESOMELY UNFORGETABLE.
FINDING YOUR TRUTH 