Such a tough thing to do: To restrain from making assumptions—passing unsubstantiated judgments on people, places, things, situations, etc., when we have no actual data to support those beliefs.
Maybe you are better at it than I am, but I have a hard time not “assuming” the outcome of a pending dispute or the likelihood of a person’s future behavior based on their already established history in similar situations.
But when we ‘think we know’ what someone is like or what someone will do, we are making quite a prognostic leap; and sometimes those assumptions have less to do with the person/object/situation under consideration, and more to do with what’s going on within us when we’re making them.
To increase your self-awareness, when you are looking hard at your own information-processing abilities—like how you tend to compartmentalize or assign values to the doings of your life—or how you tend to view others in your immediate surroundings as beneficial or non-beneficial to you—or how you tend to interpret the unexpected events that happen in your life as advantageous or detrimental to you—or even how you perceive the world around you reacting to your efforts in those regards as either with you or against you—you know, when you finally get to the point where you are truly self-assessing WHY you do WHAT you do, then you start to question all the components of your decision-making process and you take more time to determine what inner motives might be the driving factors in your making them.
That is not to say that you are condemning yourself for how you made those decisions—not at all. It’s simply saying that you are really trying to better understand WHY you’re making them in the manner that you are, especially when they are very similar to decisions you’ve previously made.
This is how you learn about your ‘inner workings’—your worldly beliefs, your value systems, your personal ethics—because this is all about better understanding how you make sense of your world and how you see yourself functioning within it, which are often based on assumptions that you intentionally or unintentionally make daily.
Some examples: Does someone you’ve just met ‘remind’ you of someone in your past who affected you in a certain way? Can you really view this new person without doing mental comparisons in looks, manners, style, actions, etc., to the previous person?
Can you attend an event that has the same atmospheric vibe as a previous highly-affecting event in your life and not get that sense of déjà vu because of it? What is similar? What is different? WHY?
While our personal history often informs us of patterns and similarities that have occurred during our lives, sometimes that same history tries to define how we view our present or it may taint our perception of the possible future. It may limit us or restrict us in some way, simply because we assume certain things based on past familiarities.
We assume certain things about our lives. We assume the earth will keep on spinning and the sun will keep on appearing first in the east.
We assume that when we go to bed at night, we will wake in the morning.
We assume our autonomic nervous system will keep our heart pumping, our lungs breathing, and our digestion system flowing so we can go about our daily duties in the best way that we can.
We assume that no matter how difficult the previous day had been that this new day ahead has the possibility of being better in some way.
We often assume that the people appearing in our lives are either good- or bad-natured, and we adjust our dealings with them accordingly. But what if that assumption was wrong? How would we treat them if we considered ALL people as good-natured?
I’m just saying that once you start your own internal investigations, you may come to some realizations that what you perceive about the world around you may have a lot more to do with what is going on inside you than you had originally assumed.
So try to be a bit more aware of how you make certain assumptions about people, places, or situations before giving them a chance to play out on their own.
You may not always be pleasantly surprised by their true natures, but then sometimes you just might.