NLP and Reframing Situations

While listening to a Brandy Gillmore session this morning on healing a client’s self-blame/inner-guilt, I finally realized what techniques she was actually using with her client—it was a mixture of distant energy-work, combined with light hypnosis and some serious NLP (Neuro-Linguistist Programming) phrasing and reframing meant to shift the client’s current unhealthy ‘stuck-perspective’ and expand her perception of her actual situation to one more accurately depicted, and therefore changeable.

Sounds simple, doesn’t it?  But it’s not.

We initially dig our own little ‘bunkered hidey-holes’ to peep out of because we feel safer in them than we do out in the world-at-large facing those ‘scary unknowns’ of all sizes, shapes, and emotional intensities. The unfortunate problem is that while our fox-hole of sorts protects us from the most violent incoming verbal/emotional barrages, it also prevents us from seeing the more accurate picture of what is really happening to us and around us.

This subject relates back to the online Trauma Conference that I recently finished. While I clearly loved Dr. Aimie Apigian enough to make her MY prime presenter, there were many others who were interesting and a few who were familiar to me, like Connirae Andreas, who co-authored a book with sister Tamera Andreas called Core Transformation: Reaching the Wellspring Within, of which I had previously mentioned in my post long ago on trauma-relief techniques with which I was familiar.

Good book and good example of how NLP techniques can be used to probe deeply into a client’s self-restricted perspective on their life situation to help them expand that limited view and to shift their possibilities-thinking out of the ‘fear-defined mode’ and into more helpful and enriching scenarios.

That ‘self-blame perspective’ Gillmore mentions was a reoccurring theme in many conference presentations on the unhealthy affects of trauma emotionally, psychologically, and even physically.

How you help a client shift out of self-blame and into the all-important self-empowerment is the real trick—and it takes a skilled practitioner to facilitate that transformation. So I admire those skills when I recognize them knowing how difficult initiating and then consolidating/solidifying the client’s new perspective shift can be.

If you are interested, there are many resources available to better understand NLP, including books, online sources, training classes, etc.  The Andreas (Connierae, Steve (deceased), and Tamara) were all great trainers, with numerous books among them. They still offer valuable info on their websites. 

NLP BOOKS:  I first read Bandler’s Guide to Transformation, and Bandler and Grinder’s The Structure of Magic; then NLP: The New Technology by Charles Faulkner and Steve Andreas. Also Transforming Yourself, Steve Andreas; Heart of the Mind, by Steve and Connierae Andreas; and of course, Core Transformation mentioned above by Connierae and Tamara.


General background on NLP from WIKI:

“Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is a pseudoscientific approach to communication, personal development, and psychotherapy created by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in California, United States, in the 1970s. NLP’s creators claim there is a connection between neurological processes (neuro-), language (linguistic) and behavioral patterns learned through experience (programming), and that these can be changed to achieve specific goals in life…”.[1][2].

“According to Bandler and Grinder, NLP comprises a methodology termed modeling, plus a set of techniques that they derived from its initial applications.[15][16] Of such methods that are considered fundamental, they derived many from the work of Virginia Satir, Milton Erickson and Fritz Perls.[17]

Bandler and Grinder also drew upon the theories of Gregory Bateson, Alfred Korzybski and Noam Chomsky (particularly transformational grammar),[15][18][19] as well as ideas and techniques from Carlos Castaneda.[20]

Bandler and Grinder claim that their methodology can codify the structure inherent to the therapeutic “magic” as performed in therapy by Perls, Satir and Erickson, and indeed inherent to any complex human activity, and then from that codification, the structure and its activity can be learned by others. Their 1975 book, The Structure of Magic I: A Book about Language and Therapy, is intended to be a codification of the therapeutic techniques of Perls and Satir….”[15][21]

Ethical NLP websites to consider:  


Published by Rebecca A. Holdorf

Rebecca A. Holdorf, has a Masters in English, and is a certified hypnotist specializing in Past-Life Exploration and Spirit World Exploration. She is also a Usui and Karuna REIKI Master Teacher presently located near Davenport, Iowa. Author of five books, she also conducts workshops and training in Self-empowerment, True-self Actualization and REIKI. Her company is Foundations of Light, LLC, web address is . Contact her at .

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