Being Kind

There is a lot going on right now—in the nation, in the world, in the cosmos, and especially within us.  Whether you attribute it all to Mercury in Retro or the end of the astrological year, or any other external force, or even to the world-wide fears/anger over a world seemingly out of control, as an energy worker myself I know that we are always swimming in oceans of energy from various sources, both known and unknown.

We are constantly affected by not just the words or actions of others—we are also affected by the energies that they emit.

We generate energy ourselves, and the frequency of the energy that radiates from us can affect those around us as well. So when we are having a tough time emotionally, it can often be felt by others who are close to us both physically and energetically.  They don’t have to see the look on your face to know that something is wrong with you—they can FEEL it, even from a distance.

A couple nights ago I felt a sudden wave of severe sadness—deep, deep heart-wrenching sadness—that brought painful memories to my mind and tears to my eyes.  I immediately thought “What brought that on? What triggered that particular memory and the energetic ‘sadness’ packet that accompanies it?”

It literally felt like I was immediately submerged in an overwhelming sadness that was engulfing me, and that if I didn’t pull out of it soon, I might not resurface intact. So I acknowledged the depth of what I was feeling, then released the memories and energy connected to them by physically blowing them out with forceful exhalations (It’s an energy-release technique that is very effective for shifting powerful emotions.), and eventually my mood stabilized back to where I had been prior, but it still left me trying to make sense out what I had so suddenly experienced.

The next day on Facebook I saw where one of my REIKI students had posted a simple call for help online with the lone statement of “I don’t want to do this anymore.”  Fortunately she had numerous other friends who jumped in and offered support and to call and talk, etc., and then she had later replied back that she was okay and had just needed to vent that degree of sadness (possibly over her mother’s death last year) to others who might care about her. She had needed a few kind words and some visible signs of caring from her friends. And thankfully she was capable of asking for it.

Also that same day on Facebook, another friend posted the graphic above saying “Today you could be standing next to someone who is trying their best not to fall apart…So whatever you do today do it with kindness in your heart.”

And I knew then that what I had felt myself was more a part of the collective grief and sadness energies than my own, but also that my REIKI student and myself were energetically bonded through our own attunement frequencies, so not only was I likely feeling her vulnerability pulling my frequency lower, but my ability to reverse my frequency direction and quickly pull myself out of the overwhelming funk, may have helped her to stabilize as well.

I mention this here because there are times when we feel like we are truly alone in our grief or our difficulties, and I want to assure anyone reading this that you are NEVER alone in this life experience, because we’re all going through it with you at the same time in our own ways.

We are constantly affected by and affecting others in everything that we do.  This is the importance of making conscious efforts to keep your focus on positive outcomes, but to also deal with the less-positive realities that you may face in the best possible manner for you, so you don’t stew in those lower frequencies for very long.  Don’t ignore the problems or the sad emotions—don’t pretend they aren’t happening—DO SOMETHING to change the situation itself to a more positive outcome.

And when you need a little extra support or encouragement, you only have to bring it to the attention of folks who do care about you, or to those who can offer professional advice.

We are all in this life together. And being kind to one another is not a lot to ask from others, but it is more than deeply appreciated when you actually need it yourself.  

Published by Rebecca A. Holdorf

Rebecca A. Holdorf, has a Masters in English, and is a certified hypnotist specializing in Past-Life Exploration and Spirit World Exploration. She is also a Usui and Karuna REIKI Master Teacher presently located near Davenport, Iowa. Author of five books, she also conducts workshops and training in Self-empowerment, True-self Actualization and REIKI. Her company is Foundations of Light, LLC, web address is . Contact her at .

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