Choosing Our Life Focus

You may find that over the course of your life-span there are times when you simply change directions for whatever reason, and when that happens, your focus in life also changes.

Perhaps a person or a place or a job or a goal or a personal effort of some sort that had been your main focus for a part of your life suddenly isn’t, so for some reason—even if through no fault of your own—where you had once put all of your energies and attention, no longer requires you to do so.  And that attention shift may leave you stewing on what or where to refocus your energies so that you don’t feel like you are left hanging out in mid-air with no purpose for rising in the morning.  

Let’s say that the object (person, job, place, situation, friends, etc.) of your previous focus may have changed in some way, or maybe you changed in how you once considered it or them. 

Or perhaps the world tilted 90 degrees to the right and you got tired of leaning so hard in the opposite direction that you nearly twisted yourself into knots just trying to maintain your balance, which forced you to refocus your efforts in a different manner entirely. It required you to shift your perspective of the overall situation to a broader overview that eliminated focusing so strongly on specific annoying details.

If you can easily relate to what I’m describing, you are not alone in feeling this—this shift in life focus happens to all of us at some point in our lives.  And for whatever reason that the sudden change has occurred in our life, it forces us to refocus our intentions and our efforts in some manner.  

Sometimes the refocus is more automatic for us—based more so on our immediate needs to improve or maintain our lifestyle. I would call that a situational refocus where the necessary situation that we now face dictates our new-direction.

But sometimes the refocus is deliberate and is accompanied by an inner attitude shift where it becomes more of a conscious personal choice in where we now place our time and our efforts.  I would call that refocus intentional.  That refocus is based on our defined intentions for pursuing a specific outcome—which means that our main efforts toward achieving that desired outcome become our life’s objective; and likewise, achieving that new objective becomes our new focus.

Since this is a complicated concept, here are a couple ‘automatic refocus’ examples: There’s nothing like a new job to sharpen your wits and put you on your best behaviors.  New job means new work associates and new bosses, not to mention tighter requirements for demonstrating your work ethic, adjusting your personal attire, and being more congenial in the workgroup at large.  You’ve got to be a team-player now, if you already weren’t prior. Your new focus is on making a good and lasting impression on the new management so that you can keep this new job that pays the bills.

How about a new love interest?  Maybe you are thinking something along this scenario while coaching yourself on how to keep from blowing it: ‘Better polish up those personal manners to shine like the sun.  And whatever you do on this first date, don’t act like you do when you’re sitting alone at home on the couch, watching all that blood and gore on the tube while shoving salty things into your mouth and spilling half of it on the floor. No. Better not be yourself, in all your natural majesty as master of your domain, when trying to impress a new squeeze.’ 

In essence, the potential impact of that NEW person entering your life will quickly refocus you to ACT in different ways or even to BECOME someone who might seem more desirable to others. That refocus may not be exactly who you really are if left to your own devices, but you are at least aware that it helps you to be considered more favorably by the other person—which means to be considered more as ‘companion-material’ to others, rather than allowing them to witness your usual more repulsive ‘couch-sloth’ behaviors.

Those personal changes that you willingly adopted, no matter the results that may be achieved from them in the future, shifted your life focus from stale sameness to the greater excitement of possible new experiences ahead.  And that focus shift away from your previous life stagnancy may have actually helped you to feel more alive—to feel more purposeful than you had previously felt if left to your own habitual monotony.

These prior focus-shift examples are natural ones that we seem to slip into without deliberation, primarily because they are so ‘basic-needs’ driven.  We need a job to eat and have a home/couch to trash with salty snacks; and we need someone that we care about to share our lives and who can, in turn, help us to feel more loved and appreciated. (And occasionally tell us to get off the couch and do something more productive.)

But there are also focus choices that go beyond our basic-survival needs list, like how we choose our daily attitude—how we choose to wake each morning and view the world around us with awe or with dread; or how we focus our efforts on possibly helping others in some way, rather than trying to scam them.

Maybe we might try focusing our extra time on how to better the living conditions of those who are NOT us, or do we instead simply choose to focus on ourselves, sometimes at the expense of others.

These are more intentional focuses. And when you execute an intentional refocus, you create a set of expectations for yourself and for the intended results of your actions.

An intentional refocus can be a BIG life change because it may not be something that you HAVE to do to survive, but it may be something that requires deeper commitment from you in some way—a time commitment—and energy-expenditure commitment—a major shift in attitude—a devotion of sorts—a serious decision to take your life in one particular direction solely because you feel the inner need to do so.

An intentional refocus is something we CHOOSE for ourselves. It’s not something that was chosen for us or that we had no say in. It is instead a driving force to create greater meaning both in and from our lives.

And when it comes down to the most basic considerations, LIFE will always present us with many opportunities to explore all the many choices that each day provides, but it’s up to us to determine where we place our focus for each day—what are our values, our principles, our personal goals—what do we determine matters the most to not only our existence, but to the existence of others as well?

How we consciously CHOOSE OUR LIFE FOCUS determines how we actually live our lives. 

In our daily reality, our FOCUS is where we put our life-force energies—the energies of creation and manifestation.

First determining our focus intention and then executing it, is how we decide to use those creative energies—because that’s how we manifest our lifeour intentional focus is what our life becomes—and choosing our focus wisely helps us to not only live our lives in the desired manner, it is also makes us more likely to BECOME who it is that we truly wish to BE.

Published by Rebecca A. Holdorf

Rebecca A. Holdorf, has a Masters in English, and is a certified hypnotist specializing in Past-Life Exploration and Spirit World Exploration. She is also a Usui and Karuna REIKI Master Teacher presently located near Davenport, Iowa. Author of five books, she also conducts workshops and training in Self-empowerment, True-self Actualization and REIKI. Her company is Foundations of Light, LLC, web address is . Contact her at .

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