“When we can’t stop thinking about our problems, our mind and life merge. We become lost in the illusion of the dream.
We could call this a ‘rut,’ but it goes much deeper than that. Along with our actions, our attitudes and feelings become repetitive. And we form the habit of being ourselves.
To change our lives, we must fundamentally change the ways we think, act, and feel. Because how we think, feel, and behave is – in essence – our personality. And our personality creates our personal reality. So, to create a new personal reality – a new life – we must create a new personality. We must become someone else.”
Had I not just been reviewing all of my old hypnosis and NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) notes from a decade ago, I might have glossed over this older Dr. Joe quote. BUT… since I was still processing the listed techniques and information from the old notes review, I paused to consider how “We become lost in the illusion of the dream.”
Seriously, we ALL do it. We may not recognize it as such, but we ALL have our delusions—some of us just have more than most or at least put more energy into maintaining the delusion over our less-desirable reality. In fact, some of us hold our ‘delusions’ up as sacred, unassailable standards because we are unable to see them as they really are: They become how we want LIFE to be—not how it actually is. And that’s where we get into trouble.
The entire point of hypnosis/NLP is to help people to change their pattern of troublesome behavior that is creating problems in their life between their delusions and realities. Or as Dr. Joe describes it: “To change our lives, we must fundamentally change the ways we think, act, and feel.”
But to do that—to make those changes, we have to recognize what isn’t working well with what we are currently thinking, acting and feeling.
Now that awakening process to how we really see the world around us is not a ten-minute fix by any means. It is a lengthy endeavor of first better understanding how you ‘perceive’ the world around you—how you ‘interpret’ and then ‘react to’ what you see, hear, and feel while interacting with all aspects of your world view; and then it involves setting a determined intention ‘to change’ those basic perceptions/reactions by shifting your thinking about what is happening to you at any time.
Piece of cake, right?
Well that’s where hypnosis and NLP come into play. They help you reframe, reconsider, refocus, and restart what is actually happening in your life—all without using the framework or context of your original delusion.
Since I’m not a board-certified therapist (certified hypnotherapist, yes, but therapist, no), I can’t claim to officially help people in that respect, but at the same time I can at least help inform them about the convoluted workings of our minds when we try to make some sense of our world, but we keep failing to do so because we are stuck in the old habits of perception/interpretation. If you keep inputting the same things in the same ways, you just keep getting the same output.
We have trained ourselves from childhood onwards to recognize certain patterns of causation/reaction when we deal with others or deal with the world at large; and then we naturally fall back into our same old habits of perception/interpretation of what is happening in how we deal with what we are experiencing at the time. The past can certainly inform the future but without shifting our view of the past, our NOW becomes just as tainted and unreliable as usual. Without change of some sort the future looks just like the past.
Meaning: We often see what we want to see. We believe what we want to believe. And we feel how we feel, no matter what our rational mind tells us is for our betterment or our detriment. The real trick of hypnosis or NLP is to help shift that erroneous seeing, thinking, feeling to something that better serves our welfare and our inner peace.
And feeling a deep sense of inner peace is a long-sought-after goal by many. Discovering who we really are as thinking, feeling people is an exploration into the depths of our souls; and that trek can be rife with obstacles and unexpected detours until we allow ourselves to fully open up to our vast potential as compassionate human beings. That obstacle path is one I am most familiar with and can easily talk about.
“To change our lives, we must fundamentally change the ways we think, act, and feel. Because how we think, feel, and behave is – in essence – our personality. And our personality creates our personal reality. So, to create a new personal reality – a new life – we must create a new personality. We must become someone else.”
When your life isn’t working for you as is, ‘To become someone else’ and be willing to change your habitual behaviors, are choices we all have to make. But to do that, you first have to figure out what you really want from life, and then determine how you go about finding it.
Or as this blog often claims, you have to make the effort of “Finding Your Truth” to make full sense of your existence here, because if you don’t know your TRUTH, you just keep wallowing in your delusion of it.