As have many before me, I’ve been through personal trauma so I would never minimize anyone’s trauma experience. But when I saw this graphic, I reacted strongly to it—especially the “…We’ve had to fight for our ability to think clearly and know who we are….”
For me that is SO true. I think a ‘survivor’ of any horrendous experience is one who simply refuses to give in, give up, or quit trying to recover one’s own being from whatever nasty situation that so adversely affected them. And I don’t DO ‘victim’—never have—never will. We are SURVIVORS—ALL of us. That’s the only way to make it through this LIFE.
Examples of trauma situations are too many to list—but believe me you know the aftereffects of TRAUMA when they strike you. Your entire world view shifts from being the confident person that you once were before the adverse incident or situation, to the shell-shocked, struggling ‘wisp of who you once were’ afterwards. And it takes a lot of time and effort to intentionally solidify into your true self again.
Plus if you are a stubborn little mule like ‘moi,’ you’ll want to face down the fears and nasty emotional/psychological residues all by yourself, because ‘Hey, it’s fine—I’m fine—everything is fine!’ don’t you know. Except you actually aren’t FINE—not even close. So take my hard-earned advice here and get some real help coming to grips with what all was and likely still is happening to you, because the hidden, lingering aftereffects are still the most devastating to your daily life, and especially to your relationships.
See, that’s the part of “Trauma survivors crave honesty and authenticity….” that you have to learn to acknowledge and respect about yourself now. You really are NOT the same person that you once were—you will never be that naïve and gullible again—that open and trusting of others—or even that arrogant and oblivious to other people’s/being’s reach and power (Yep, that’s me); because it’s just not possible that you will let yourself be so vulnerable to any others ever again; which either makes you hesitant and nervous around others or it possibly makes you defensive and suspicious toward them—simply to better protect yourself in the now from encountering a similar nasty past experience.
I get it. I really do.
Totally and completely—I get it. I question everything and everyone around me now. I always look for motives and dive deeply beyond surface appearances in search of that illusive TRUTH thread to any situation or encounter.
I DO crave “honesty and authenticity” in any of my relationships, including friendships; and because I’ve had to fight so hard to recover my thinking abilities, I will never take anyone or anything at face value again, and never will I automatically believe whatever I’m being told by ANYONE, especially since as an energy worker I can FEEL the energies that they are projecting along with the meaningless words that slide so easily from their lips. You can’t fool a ‘human lie detector’ (an energy empath) who can literally FEEL your emitted vibes.
So in truth as the graphic above states, I am NOT “…willing to engage with those who do not honor that” —who do not honor ME as a valued person.
And that is exactly how I feel about dealing with other people now. Show me who you really are by your actions and mannerisms—don’t tell me of your sterling character and numerous accomplishments because they mean nothing to me. Self-proclamations are merely your ego’s hubris surfacing which does the opposite of your intention. If you brag on yourself, I trust you less, not more.
I value silence. I value humility. I value witnessing your actions with and your reactions to others who come in contact with you—especially your reactions to animals. You can’t fool animals, as they read and react to people’s energies better than most humans do.
So if you want to book a visit to MY personal island, you better have a valid TRUST passport and proof of authenticity as a ‘caring human being’ before even thinking about approaching MY shores.
You know, …just sayin’.